If you need some advice on how to get your ex back, then you’re not alone. While I’m sure that there are some amazing success stories out there, the fact of the matter is that most of us just don’t end up with our first boyfriend or girlfriend. And you know what else? Most break ups aren’t all that clean, either. Usually, one person wants to get back together with the other.
While every relationship is different, people tend to break up for the same underlying reasons. I’m going to give you an idea of why a man or a woman tends to leave their partner.
However, there are similarities as well. Let me go ahead and break it down for you by gender, just so that we’re on the same page.
Have you ever heard anyone talk about “the male ego?” Well, its real, its huge, and its a beast that needs a lot of nurturing. A man has to feel like a man to want anything to do with a relationship. He needs to feel that he commands respect. He also needs a sense of freedom, and he absolutely must feel that his woman is attracted to him and looks up to him.
But women are not so ego-centric as a man. Instead of constant respect and admiration, a woman needs a sense of appreciation and feeling special, sort of like a priceless heirloom or a treasure. She needs to feel like a princess or a queen to feel secure in a relationship.
Even though your ex may have given you a different reason for why they no longer want to be together (often a very vague, confusing reason) you have to trust me on this one for now, because the psychology behind this is beyond the scope of this article.
Both men and women are emotional creatures. Therefore, we act based on our emotions first, not our logic. But when we try and explain our emotional actions in our language of choice… we don’t always know how to. That’s why the reasons that people give for wanting to break up are often so vague, and, as it turns out… completly false or incomplete.
Don’t take the reasons your ex gives you for wanting to break up at face value. Instead, you just have to stay focused on your goal. You want your ex back? Let me tell you what your plan should be, in a nutshell.
To get started towards getting your ex back, the key is to repair damage that has already been done. Basically, you have to stop doing the wrong things and start doing the right things. Sounds simple enough, right?