First off, I want to tell you that most people who are looking for advice on how to get their ex back don’t really know the true reason behind their break up. Sometimes, people are confused and think that they understand the situation completely when they in truth do not.
On the other hand, it could be that your ex gave you one of the clich old sayings about why they no longer want to be together. Phrases like “it’s not you it’s me” or “let’s just be friends.” These offer little insight into the actual situation, and can leave you feeling quite helpless.
The real reason that your ex doesn’t want to be in the relationship anymore can be quite counter intuitive.
If your ex is content on being away from you and no longer wants to be in the relationship, it can only mean one thing — that your ex is no longer as strongly attracted to you as they once were. Let me tell you something about attraction — attraction is one of the most powerful emotions that humans are capable of, and it dictates our actions extremely powerfully. If your ex were still attracted to you in the way that they were in the beginning, would they really be able to resist being with you? Can you resist being with them?
I’m sure you’ve seen couples who stay together no matter how many problems they have. And I mean they stay together with some extremely bad problems! Maybe they know they should get away from each other, but they just can’t bring themselves to do it because of the strong emotional bond that they have. You may think this is because they are weak people, but that’s not the case.
Just like you yourself are feeling victim to the strong forces of attraction, so does anybody who feels it. And your ex is no exception!
Attraction is the missing ingredient. It is the one thing that can bring your ex back to you, both emotionally and physically. If you truly want your ex back, then reigniting that spark that was once there is vital to your success. However, don’t make the mistake of thinking that attraction only pertains to physical appearance, because that couldn’t be further from the truth.
No, attraction is much more complicated than that, and it is not a choice. It is mostly mental, actually. Sure, looks contribute, but it’s the overall feeling that is most important. And you can influence that feeling with psychology.
Getting your ex back is easier than you think. You just need to start doing more things that build attraction, and stop doing things that kill attraction. That’s the best advice on how to get your ex back that I can give you.
Here are some systems that I recommend for recreating attraction and getting your ex back: The Ex Back System and The Magic of Making Up